I thought about something when we were riding our bikes past a house the other day. It was one that we considered buying before we chose ours. It made me realize an important thing that no one ever seems to tell you and I think some people may never actually fully believe.
It’s that there’s no such thing as a wrong decision.
Think about it, what defines a wrong decision? Deciding to act in the wrong way? Well what’s the wrong way? Who defines something as being wrong?
We were riding our bikes past that house and saw that they had a company out removing a tree, and Marla reminded me, “hey that’s the one that we were gonna take out.”
That’s what triggered some questions in my mind. What if we had bought that house? What if we didn’t make the decision to pass on it and to continue looking? Would we be disappointed? Would it have been a bad decision?
That’s when I realized that nothing would be different. We would live in a different house in a slightly different location, but we would still be happy and living our lives exactly how we are.
Was it a great house? No, and that’s why we passed on it, but a house is just another thing. Whether it’s great or just average doesn’t really affect our quality of life.
Removing wrong decisions from your life all comes down to outlook. I realized that I personally don’t feel like I’ve ever made a wrong decision. I don’t regret anything I’ve ever done and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. I also know though that someone else living my exact same life may not have that same outlook at all.
I just have no interest in dwelling on the negative and you shouldn’t either. At times it can be tough to find, but there’s always a bright side to every situation and if that’s where you focus your attention you can’t help but be happy.
You’re In Control
The possibilities for how you live your life are not finite. There isn’t some predetermined path that you’re on where you’re either destined for failure or success. You’re in full control and you blaze your own trail.
It feels strange to think now, but I always felt like there was some set plan. Like life was exactly how it was and that’s the way it was always going to be no matter what.
I’m an only child. In my mind that’s exactly how it was always supposed to be and going to be and I couldn’t have imagined anything different. I would constantly get asked though, “do you miss not having a brother or sister?” And I would always think that that was the strangest question because to me having a sibling would have been weird, not not having one.
Even though I felt like it was, being an only child was in no way set in stone. At any point my parents could have decided to have another kid, they simply made a different decision.
Your decisions are how you change the universe. Every choice you make helps to establish your future, but the great part is that a “wrong” decision is corrected and changed just by making another decision.
Say it’s 2002 and you’re ready to get a tattoo. You find the coolest one that you’ve ever seen. You know this is it, time to finally make the leap and get some ink. Fast forward to today and you realize that that same butterfly tattoo on your lower back is not as cool as you thought it was and you’re finally sick of people saying that you have a tramp stamp.
You have a decision to make, either you keep the tattoo and laugh about how silly you were to ever think something like that was cool, or you remove it. The thing is though, getting the tattoo wasn’t a wrong decision, you’ve simply grown out of having it and now have to make a new decision.
There’s no benefit in dwelling on a bad move or thinking “I wish I woulda…” because letting yourself be bothered about something that has already happened will never change it. Taking action and making new decisions will.
If you don’t view anything as a wrong decision, but instead as a stepping stone to your next choice, then you can never fail.
Back when my IRL friends found out that I started SPYR and no longer had any interest in a normal day job, many of them quickly asked about our future and thought I should be concerned whether or not the company would be around for the long haul. First off there’s no worry of SPYR going anywhere any time soon, but the thing is, if something unforeseen came up, if situations changed, then I’d simply make a new decision and continue on just like I have been.
Why worry about something that could potentially happen? Simply live now and make the tough decisions as you need to.
Don’t be afraid to live life on your terms because a wrong decision is nothing more than forgetting to look at the bright side of things. Learn to trust in yourself and believe that there’s no such thing as a wrong decision because it’ll allow you to be and do anything that you want without regret.